I Just Got Diagnosed With Genital Herpes And Need Some Words Of Encouragement.?
Ive only been with 3 men in my life and the second man gave me knowingly genital herpes, I am devastated and upset that he never told me. I would just like to know how others have dealt with it, and some positive stories/advice. Thank You
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January 18th, 2010 at 3:34 am
I am truly sorry you contracted Herpes. The feeling is devastating, but just know that you WILL be ok. So many feelings must be going through you right now. I contracted it last year, and what helped me was to write a blog about my experience with it thus far. My initial outbreak was so bad I was in the hospital for 3 days!
If you’d like to read it (maybe it’ll help you), it’s http://picturesofgenitalwarts.net/help-for-genital-warts/" /> There is also a guy on the web named Chris Scipio who has HSV-2 and is a holistic viral specialist. His sites are:
http://picturesofgenitalwarts.net/help-for-genital-warts/" /> and
http://picturesofgenitalwarts.net/help-for-genital-warts/" /> I think you have to see it also as a good thing, because whoever you inform about having it will reveal the true person. If they really care for you, they won’t care if you have it.
January 18th, 2010 at 3:39 am
I’ve had it since I was 18, which is 7 years for me. The first outbreak is always the worst, so don’t worry, they won’t all be like that. Mine come very rarely. More often when I’m stressed. It’s not a big deal to me now…I’m married and he knew before we had sex and has not contracted it yet. I’m sure he will eventually, but we do everything for him not to. I’m not embarrassed at all. Many many people have it. Just do some research on the computer on activities that will help you not have outbreaks. My outbreaks usually consist of lower back pain, tenderness in my hip area, then I get one little bump and I start taking Valtrex as soon as I notice it. It’s a great medicine. Don’t worry about it! I know it’s devastating in the beginning, but you’ll live a perfectly normal life, if you research stuff and take your meds. Good luck!
January 18th, 2010 at 7:20 am
ugh, I have been dealing with genital herpes for about 5 to 6 years now. And last summer a guy knowingly gave me genital warts.
Its hasnt been easy. When I got diagnosed with herpes it was hard enough to tell a guy i was interested in that I had that. Now its a million times worse for me to say “oh hey by the way, I have genital herpes AND gential warts” I had a guy leave me at a bar after i told him that.
Anyway, I try to remember of how much of a great person I am. I work hard to try and make ends meet. I have a wonderful 5 year old son and a great family. I take my valtrex daily and drink a ton of water each day. I also started going to the gym to keep my immune system up to try and prevent outbreaks..which i highly recommend.
I tell any guy that is interested in me as more then a friend. I have to. Im just not the type of person not to say anything and destroy someones life b.c of something that could so easily be prevented.
I tend to blame myself really. I had unprotected sex and had my head up my butt that something like this could ever happen to me..then bam. I get hit with all that! Im just glad I dont have AIDS!
its not the end of the world my dear. it sure feels like it sometimes but, its not. People are either going to be true and accept you for who you are and not what you have. If they dont and judge you for it then they are not worth being around..trust me! My confidence has completely down the drain with men. So I have given up looking. if you wanna talk email me. big hugs to you!!
January 18th, 2010 at 12:26 pm
well its really messed up for him not telling you he had this that is hurtful i know to you and i would be really pissed and upset to he must not have a heart.Well just think about it this way at least you dont have aids or a life threating desase that some people have you can get meds to help with your problem but i know that dont make you feel better i am truely sorry that this happen to you just know that when the world ends and we all go for judgement that will be one more bad thing on him just remember you are better than that dont do anything mean back to him because that will just make it worse on you he will pay for this in the long run dont worry i really dislike people like this who mess someone elses life up because they had a messed up life you shouldnt have to go through this and now you are because of some low beat guy who dosent have a heart and was only thinking about his self. i am really sorry that this happened to you and i hope you find a way to live with this best of luck to you and i will keep you in my thoughts :]
January 18th, 2010 at 3:43 pm
i see genital herpes were i work at. i work in a HIV/AIDS clinic. and trust me i see alot of crazy stuff. depends where you live go to your local STD clinic or a ob/gyn clinic there are procedures to remove them it painful though but its worth it.![](http://picturesofgenitalwarts.net
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hope this info is useful remember use protection these days. there’s are more serious STD’s out there and the HIV/AIDS virus is raising good luck ???
January 18th, 2010 at 9:28 pm
i want u to check my yahoo answers profile & yahoo 360. I have alot of articles on herpes type 1 & 2 in my yahoo answers profile. And yes i feel for u. I was just diagnosed with type 2 herpes 3 weeks ago. Its very hard to deal with at first. At least u know whom u got it from. I am still working on that yet.
January 18th, 2010 at 10:53 pm
wow. safe sex is no sex.
i heard hyperbaric treatments would get rid of it. but it is illegal in the states.
sorry for ya. truely that is why i have been celibate for the past 3 years. take your valtrex and move on, what can you do.
January 18th, 2010 at 11:45 pm
I’m very sad for you that you contracted it, And I hope you get the care that you need and that you are more responsible with this disease than he was. I’ve known others that had it and as long as you take your pills…….
January 19th, 2010 at 1:19 am
Damn sorry babygirl….
:/
If his greensboro N.C I’ll firebomb his house for a small fee!
ACT NOW! LOCAL TERRORISM!
Do you hate your boss, ex lover, or mother?!
HIRE ME!
*Murder not included…
January 19th, 2010 at 1:20 am
I remember when I was first diagnosed with genital herpes about eleven years ago. I was depressed and angry and ashamed – and I was sure that no one would ever love me again.
Since then, I’ve had several boyfriends – all of whom knew about my herpes before we got sexual – and I’m now happily married.
I suggest that you read up about genital herpes. It should make you feel better. I’ll try to summarize some of the stuff you’ll learn here (but this response may be a bit long.)
The bad news:
Herpes is not curable, and you’re probably going to want to tell all your future partners about your herpes before you get sexual. Honestly, this is the worst part.
The good news:
If you take antiviral drugs, and you never EVER have sex during an outbreak, your chance of spreading herpes to your partner is less than 5% PER YEAR.
More good news:
Herpes outbreaks tend to lessen, both in severity and in frequency, as time goes by.
More good news:
Herpes causes NO danger to an unborn fetus. There may be some danger during delivery, but there are easy, safe and sure ways to make 100% sure that your baby is born without herpes.
More good news:
Herpes doesn’t cause cancer, or infertility. It is not fatal, and doesn’t lead to other diseases.
More “good” news:
Many MANY people have genital herpes. 20% of the adult population in the US has it – but most people who have it don’t realize it (even though they can go on to infect other people). It’s incredibly common. You are not alone by any means.
Truthfully, the emotional aftermath of a herpes diagnosis is the worst part of herpes. It will get better. Honestly, it will.
My fave site for herpes is the one below. Also, please feel free to email with questions you might have.
I’m so sorry to hear about your diagnosis. All I know to do is to cry a lot, and then eventually realize that it really will all be okay.
Good luck.